Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Backtalk

A couple of people have e-mailed to ask me if I can identify the victim of or otherwise comment on Dr. Sue's latest snitfest.

What I can tell you:

1. I haven't belonged to a formal online writing community for years, so I rather doubt it's me.

2. If I knew who it was, I still wouldn't identify her. Stuff like this should be said to the victim's face, not behind her back.

3. It's an excellent warning for anyone considering joining an online writers' group. This could be you they're talking about.

4. Unkindness, childishness, envy, contempt and character assassinations are pretty much business as usual in any entertainment industry. The more successful you are, the more you'll encounter them. Welcome to the wonderful world of publishing.

7 comments:

  1. During my time as bullying victim at school I thought people would eventually grow up and learn a few things about tolerance and fairness.

    Doesn't seem to happen for some.

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  2. Anonymous4:09 PM

    Ugh....words for the wise, pbw...thanks for the link

    Michele

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  3. In any group of people, there will be some who don't get along, and a few who want control the group. In a group of people as sensitive and neurotic as writers usually are, the problem is magnified. That's the reason most writing groups eventually fall apart. Sometimes, you just have to walk away and look for a more stable group, if you still feel the need to be in one.

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  4. It's sad that we're dealing with adults.

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  5. Gabriele C. said...

    During my time as bullying victim


    Gabriele, I don't believe that. I see you as the bully, not the bullied ;o)

    Maybe it's all those whopping big swords you put in your stories.

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  6. There are days I don't think we're evolving as life forms at all.

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  7. Interesting post by Dr. Sue, especially this gem in comments:

    People who spark strong negative feelings in us often have a great deal to teach us about ourselves.

    Sometimes you just have to admit that you're part of the problem and just walk away.

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